First Time Secrets

I posted a while ago about a girl worried that her boyfriend isn’t ready for sex yet. A reader named Anna read the post and had this comment:

My boyfriend and I are not ready to have sex yet. We have great communication and respect each other a lot, but we are looking for other fun ways to spice up all the physical aspects of our relationship besides sex. What do you suggest?

There are so many wonderful things you can do without having intercourse. Here are a few ideas:

Give each other massages. Foot rubs, back rubs, head rubs and even hand rubs feel so good! You could also get a book on erotic massage and buy some nicely scented massage oils (like this Kama Sutra Massage Oil Therapy Kit) and give each other sensual massages. This would include as many parts of your body that you feel comfortable with. Our genitals are not the only parts that feel good when rubbed! Who doesn’t like a back massage?!

You could experiment with things like blindfolds and feathers. One partner is blindfolded and the other partner trails a nice soft feather across their skin. As long it doesn’t tickle, it should feel nice! You can also experiment with food. You can feed the blindfolded partner a strawberry or a piece of chocolate. Or have a little bit of chocolate sauce licked off of your breasts/stomach/wherever you wish.

Ice cubes on a hot day feel nice trailed over bare skin! Especially followed by kisses.

Then of course there is oral pleasure. If you are comfortable taking your physical acts to that level, oral pleasure is amazing! It’s certainly my favorite thing to receive, and it’s fun to give it as well.

Taking a bubble bath together can be very romantic, as long as the tub is big enough for both you!

Long make out sessions that involve getting kissed in places you might not even consider sexy (like the crease of your elbow) can be really hot! There’s the earlobe, neck, collarbone, etc. etc. Places that can make you shiver!

Have fun!