First Time Secrets

I receive dozens of questions from virgins everywhere and instead of just answering them all personally (which I do), I decided to share some of them with you.

Maybe you’ve got the same question but are afraid to ask or maybe you just like reading sex advice. Either way, here are a couple of questions readers have sent in:

I am ready to have sex for the first time, but I don’t think my boyfriend is ready to take my virginity. What should I do?

Both people have to be ready to have sex. If things were reversed and it was your boyfriend who was ready but you weren’t, then I’d say you should wait. And that’s what I think you should do in this case as well. Wait until your boyfriend is ready and don’t pressure him to become ready…he’ll get there on his own.

Choosing when to have sex for the first time is a very personal decision and it takes a different amount of time for everyone. There are a lot of other fun things you can do together in the mean time. Besides all the physical stuff, make sure you and your boyfriend are comfortable talking to each other about sex. A little communication goes a long way! Good luck!

If there are other girls out there who have experienced this, please write in and tell us what happened!

What should i do the period of time before losing my virginity…like shower minutes before or where perfume and stuff?

Well that’s an interesting question. There are lots of things you should do to prepare for losing your virginity much further in advance than minutes before (like getting condoms, or even grooming yourself “down there”).

It’s not necessary to shower minutes before or load up on the perfume (too much perfume can be a little gross actually). As long as you have showered that morning and put on deodorant, brushed your teeth, etc. then you should be good to go (as far as smells are concerned).

There is an entire chapter in The Guide to Losing Your Virginity dedicated to getting ready physically.

So keep those questions coming virgins. There are no stupid questions! Asking them shows you care about yourself and your (potential) partner - and that’s the way it should be!